Does anyone know how to unhack it?
This is a paradox I have been struggling with:
Genuine admiration for someone is looking past their appearance and for who they are and their personality right? So someone worth befriending or dating would not be shallow enough to judge solely based on looks.
But what about the initial attraction? Then don’t looks account for anything? Or rather everything?
Maybe I should meditate on this like Buddhist monks did with kōans…